Hoppy
04-02-2008, 07:36 AM
From www.Screamfree.com
Quote of the Day: "This above all: to thine own self be true; And it must follow, as the night the day; thou canst not then be false to any man."
— William Shakespeare
http://www.screamfree.com/resources/partners/template/images/hal_runkel.jpg Hal's Take: Being true to yourself does not mean indulging or pampering yourself to the neglect of others; nor does it mean that whatever you believe is the right thing all the time. It simply means that you’ll be better off as a person and as a parent if you figure out what is important to you and then honestly allow your actions to match your beliefs. Plain and simple, it means acting with integrity.
Too many times, when dealing with our kids, we say yes to something that we don’t really want to do, that we deep down think is wrong – and then we allow our actions and attitudes to make our displeasure very clear. If you think your child is old enough to clean his own bathroom, don't clean it for him and then grumble and complain that he isn't responsible. Acting untrue to yourself takes much more mental and emotional energy than simply standing up for what you believe and holding your head up in the process. You can’t expect your kids to listen to you if they don’t see you showing them how.
Hal Runkel, LMFT, author of ScreamFree Parenting:
Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool.
Quote of the Day: "This above all: to thine own self be true; And it must follow, as the night the day; thou canst not then be false to any man."
— William Shakespeare
http://www.screamfree.com/resources/partners/template/images/hal_runkel.jpg Hal's Take: Being true to yourself does not mean indulging or pampering yourself to the neglect of others; nor does it mean that whatever you believe is the right thing all the time. It simply means that you’ll be better off as a person and as a parent if you figure out what is important to you and then honestly allow your actions to match your beliefs. Plain and simple, it means acting with integrity.
Too many times, when dealing with our kids, we say yes to something that we don’t really want to do, that we deep down think is wrong – and then we allow our actions and attitudes to make our displeasure very clear. If you think your child is old enough to clean his own bathroom, don't clean it for him and then grumble and complain that he isn't responsible. Acting untrue to yourself takes much more mental and emotional energy than simply standing up for what you believe and holding your head up in the process. You can’t expect your kids to listen to you if they don’t see you showing them how.
Hal Runkel, LMFT, author of ScreamFree Parenting:
Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool.