Hoppy
04-09-2008, 02:04 PM
From SceamFree Parenting www.screamfree.com
Quote of the Day: "You see much more of your children once they leave home."
— Lucille Ball, U.S. comedienne (1911-1989)
http://www.screamfree.com/resources/partners/template/images/hal_runkel.jpg Hal's Take: This quote by the legendary comedienne Lucille Ball is true on a couple of different levels. On one hand, she seems to be talking about the phenomenon of children leaving home only to return asking for help. For this very reason, don't tell your kids that they can be anything when they grow up. "Unemployed and dwelling in my basement" isn't a box they can check on the SAT career option list and it's better for them to hear it now rather than later.
On another note, the comedienne is touching on a deeper truth worth exploring. Your relationship with your children will grow by leaps and bounds when you can start to truly see them as individuals. This is sometimes easier to do when you give them a chance to experience the world away from you, and that shouldn't begin when they go off to college.
Hal Runkel, LMFT, author of ScreamFree Parenting:
Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool.
Quote of the Day: "You see much more of your children once they leave home."
— Lucille Ball, U.S. comedienne (1911-1989)
http://www.screamfree.com/resources/partners/template/images/hal_runkel.jpg Hal's Take: This quote by the legendary comedienne Lucille Ball is true on a couple of different levels. On one hand, she seems to be talking about the phenomenon of children leaving home only to return asking for help. For this very reason, don't tell your kids that they can be anything when they grow up. "Unemployed and dwelling in my basement" isn't a box they can check on the SAT career option list and it's better for them to hear it now rather than later.
On another note, the comedienne is touching on a deeper truth worth exploring. Your relationship with your children will grow by leaps and bounds when you can start to truly see them as individuals. This is sometimes easier to do when you give them a chance to experience the world away from you, and that shouldn't begin when they go off to college.
Hal Runkel, LMFT, author of ScreamFree Parenting:
Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool.