Hoppy
04-11-2008, 09:10 AM
From ScreamFree Parenting www.screamfree.com
Quote of the Day: "The most loving parents and relatives commit murder with smiles on their faces. They force us to destroy the person we really are: a subtle kind of murder."
— Jim Morrison, The Doors, (1943-1971)
http://www.screamfree.com/resources/partners/template/images/hal_runkel.jpg Hal's Take: While the mysterious front man for the doors is certainly not the greatest expert on parenting, in this quote here, he certainly speaks the truth. The ones we love the most are often the ones capable of doing the most damage. Families are capable of creating the most hurtful situations imaginable from one human to another because hurt so often occurs in the very setting that should be the safest. Sometimes in a well-intentioned effort to do "what's best" for our children, we stifle them or smother them. We get anxious when they stray from our plan of how they should turn out. So, instead of enjoying the ride and helping them grow into what they can be, we close doors and tell them what they can't be. How different would our family look if we encouraged the strengths that our children exhibit instead of focusing so much on the "weaknesses" they may or may not have?
Hal Runkel, LMFT, author of ScreamFree Parenting:
Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool.
Quote of the Day: "The most loving parents and relatives commit murder with smiles on their faces. They force us to destroy the person we really are: a subtle kind of murder."
— Jim Morrison, The Doors, (1943-1971)
http://www.screamfree.com/resources/partners/template/images/hal_runkel.jpg Hal's Take: While the mysterious front man for the doors is certainly not the greatest expert on parenting, in this quote here, he certainly speaks the truth. The ones we love the most are often the ones capable of doing the most damage. Families are capable of creating the most hurtful situations imaginable from one human to another because hurt so often occurs in the very setting that should be the safest. Sometimes in a well-intentioned effort to do "what's best" for our children, we stifle them or smother them. We get anxious when they stray from our plan of how they should turn out. So, instead of enjoying the ride and helping them grow into what they can be, we close doors and tell them what they can't be. How different would our family look if we encouraged the strengths that our children exhibit instead of focusing so much on the "weaknesses" they may or may not have?
Hal Runkel, LMFT, author of ScreamFree Parenting:
Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool.