Hoppy
04-23-2008, 10:08 AM
From www.screamfree.com
Quote of the Day: "The central struggle of parenthood is to let our hopes for our children outweigh our fears. "
— Ellen Goodman, American Journalist (1941 - )
http://www.screamfree.com/resources/partners/template/images/hal_runkel.jpg Hal's Take: There is no such thing as anxiety-free parenting. I always tell my audiences that I’ll stop worrying about my kids when I’m dead. That’s normal and to be expected. But when we allow the fear and anxiety that naturally comes with parenting to be the driving force behind our interactions and decisions, we actually create the outcomes that we were hoping to avoid. Many of our fears are more about us than they are about our child anyway. So, instead of spending so much time worrying about what might happen to your child or what they might do wrong, spend some time thinking about what kinds of good things are happening to your child and what things they are doing well right now. I know it’s hard to do, but if we can learn to control our overactive, fear-based imaginations long enough to enjoy the present moment, we will actually increase our chances of a bright, hope-filled future for our kids.
Hal Runkel, LMFT, author of ScreamFree Parenting:
Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool.
Quote of the Day: "The central struggle of parenthood is to let our hopes for our children outweigh our fears. "
— Ellen Goodman, American Journalist (1941 - )
http://www.screamfree.com/resources/partners/template/images/hal_runkel.jpg Hal's Take: There is no such thing as anxiety-free parenting. I always tell my audiences that I’ll stop worrying about my kids when I’m dead. That’s normal and to be expected. But when we allow the fear and anxiety that naturally comes with parenting to be the driving force behind our interactions and decisions, we actually create the outcomes that we were hoping to avoid. Many of our fears are more about us than they are about our child anyway. So, instead of spending so much time worrying about what might happen to your child or what they might do wrong, spend some time thinking about what kinds of good things are happening to your child and what things they are doing well right now. I know it’s hard to do, but if we can learn to control our overactive, fear-based imaginations long enough to enjoy the present moment, we will actually increase our chances of a bright, hope-filled future for our kids.
Hal Runkel, LMFT, author of ScreamFree Parenting:
Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool.