Hoppy
05-01-2008, 09:13 AM
From www.screamfree.com
Quote of the Day: "Assumptions are the termites of relationships. "
— Henry Winkler, US television actor (1945 - )
http://www.screamfree.com/resources/partners/template/images/hal_runkel.jpg Hal's Take: We all know that the Fonz could ride a chopper and kill the ladies; heck, we even knew he could jump a shark. But who knew he could give parenting advice? This is a brilliant quote that succinctly states a relational truth. By making an assumption about a person’s motivations, you are placing them in a box and limiting their options. If you assume your kids hate school, do not want to excel in academics, and need constant motivation just to pass, then you will begin to push, hover, and worry them into a battle of wills: yours against theirs. Think back to when your child first started drawing pictures and furrowed her little brow to get the flower just right. She cared greatly and yearned to do well. So, what has happened since then? In the spirit of the ultimate cool cat, Arthur Fonzarelli, stay in control of your assumptions and give your kids the chance to surprise you.
Hal Runkel, LMFT, author of ScreamFree Parenting:
Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool.
Quote of the Day: "Assumptions are the termites of relationships. "
— Henry Winkler, US television actor (1945 - )
http://www.screamfree.com/resources/partners/template/images/hal_runkel.jpg Hal's Take: We all know that the Fonz could ride a chopper and kill the ladies; heck, we even knew he could jump a shark. But who knew he could give parenting advice? This is a brilliant quote that succinctly states a relational truth. By making an assumption about a person’s motivations, you are placing them in a box and limiting their options. If you assume your kids hate school, do not want to excel in academics, and need constant motivation just to pass, then you will begin to push, hover, and worry them into a battle of wills: yours against theirs. Think back to when your child first started drawing pictures and furrowed her little brow to get the flower just right. She cared greatly and yearned to do well. So, what has happened since then? In the spirit of the ultimate cool cat, Arthur Fonzarelli, stay in control of your assumptions and give your kids the chance to surprise you.
Hal Runkel, LMFT, author of ScreamFree Parenting:
Raising Your Kids by Keeping Your Cool.