KIDPOWER
05-12-2008, 09:23 AM
Good Morning All,
A boundary is like a limit and, At KIDPOWER, we believe that clear boundaries, respectfully and firmly set, can help to build better relationships.
KIDPOWER's Underlying Principle is that the safety and well-being of each of us is worth causing ANYONE embarrassment, inconvenience or offense -- ourselves, our loves ones, people in a position of authority, anyone with whom we come into contact, and busy distracted people.
Here are four important important KIDPOWER Boundary Principles that can help us to make wise decisions for everyone's well-being in our daily lives and teach our children to do the same.
1. We each belong to ourselves. Our bodies, feelings, personal space, thoughts - all of us. This means that touch, teasing, or games for play or for affection should be the choice of each person, safe, and allowed by the adults in charge.
2. Some things are not a choice. Although our kinds of choices are different, this is as true for adults as it is for children. For children, many decisions related to health and safety are not their choice. They MUST go to bed. They MUST brush their teeth. They MUST NOT hurt themselves or each other.
3. Problems should not be secrets. A great deal of misery could be prevented if all of us remembered this rule. Keeping our own problems a secret leaves us trapped and in isolation.
4. Keep Telling Until You Get Help. For children, telling can mean their parents or other trusted adults who will do something to solve the problem. For adults, telling means finding resources to help you understand the problem, get emotional support, and figure out what to do.
Do these principles make sense to you? What makes following them confusing or hard?
Irene
A boundary is like a limit and, At KIDPOWER, we believe that clear boundaries, respectfully and firmly set, can help to build better relationships.
KIDPOWER's Underlying Principle is that the safety and well-being of each of us is worth causing ANYONE embarrassment, inconvenience or offense -- ourselves, our loves ones, people in a position of authority, anyone with whom we come into contact, and busy distracted people.
Here are four important important KIDPOWER Boundary Principles that can help us to make wise decisions for everyone's well-being in our daily lives and teach our children to do the same.
1. We each belong to ourselves. Our bodies, feelings, personal space, thoughts - all of us. This means that touch, teasing, or games for play or for affection should be the choice of each person, safe, and allowed by the adults in charge.
2. Some things are not a choice. Although our kinds of choices are different, this is as true for adults as it is for children. For children, many decisions related to health and safety are not their choice. They MUST go to bed. They MUST brush their teeth. They MUST NOT hurt themselves or each other.
3. Problems should not be secrets. A great deal of misery could be prevented if all of us remembered this rule. Keeping our own problems a secret leaves us trapped and in isolation.
4. Keep Telling Until You Get Help. For children, telling can mean their parents or other trusted adults who will do something to solve the problem. For adults, telling means finding resources to help you understand the problem, get emotional support, and figure out what to do.
Do these principles make sense to you? What makes following them confusing or hard?
Irene