which is better?

[3babesandadad]

Here's the scenario-
DD (5) LOVES to help-period.
I let her do dishes with me because she enjoys the time with me so much.
DH, however, can't handle it. He just doesn't have the patience, and he's this anal perfectionist, so when she doesn't do it right or fast enough he wiggs out.
So which is better-
Him trying to work on his patience and allow her to help him with the dishes.
or
Just letting her know he doesn't have the patience to handle her helping him with that chore.

?

[bzymomof4]

:thinkthink:



My vote is for both. He needs to work on his patience and she needs to know he isn't mad at her, just how she washes dishes. That way she will hopefully understand that they both need to try harder to work together. :shrug:

[MIZ]

What about a compromise? Give her a certain amount of dishes that she can wash, then he can do the rest when she is done?

[3babesandadad]

I'll have to try that one miz.... and see how she reacts, cause she usually gets bored after a few minutes anyway :hmm:

[randyb]

I'd suggest both. DH needs to step back and measure the job done by a child, not an adult standard. DD needs to learn how to handle DH's outburst. Being in the middle for yourself is not a solution, it is a bandaid on the problem. What is going on between DH and DD is going to carry over in more than doing dishes and working on a solution now will help in the future. Best of luck!:waterflowers:

[3babesandadad]

DD is 5, I can hardly expect her to learn how to handle DH's outburst, she's just a baby.
So far I have pretty much kept DH away from the dishes, and that has seemed to handle the problem. And she helps him do other things like work on the cars and work on the yard.
I think it has been working out well.