Wow....

[Dizzy]

So I have heard of this before but never thought much of it. After these last few days I think I am going to be looking into this a lot because I need a new method. I try not to yell or scream at my kids but sometimes it is just so hard not to! PLUS I didn't have the ideal role model for how to deal with kids. Yelling was an everyday thing and "normal" in my house growing up. Hopefully I can get something out of this part of the forums and their website!

[3babesandadad]

Scream Free Parenting is a wonderful method. I'm going back through the book for a second time. You're not alone.

One thing I can suggest is when you're feeling like you're about to scream at your kids the best thing you can do is just walk away and breathe. It's better for you and the kids :)

[Dizzy]

That has been what I have been doing lately. Just walking away. It was REALLY hard yesterday. After this week my throat is almost raw and I don't like that. i think now that I have a job it will help because most of it was the fact I didn't feel productive ever. Thanks for the words of encouragement!!

[Hoppy]

I am glad you are trying to take control of the situation. I agree that walking away is usually the best thing to do if you are going to lose your cool.

[EmilyJames]

Its so hard sometimes but I try not to scream it doesn't get anywhere and it teaches your kids to get overly emotional when they are trying to voice their opinions

[leo_jess]

I think most good parents try not to yell but it is impossible at times. Keep working on it, and try not to let the fact that you did yell get you down. NO ONE is perfect, but dammit we try!

[Snaggle]

*raises slowly hand*



I'm guilty of this, too. I try my best not to yell anymore. In fact, we've gotten to the point that if I raise my voice, even a little bit, the girls know they have gone way too far.



Progress.... it's slow and painful. :lol:




I tend to lose my cool more when I'm trying to work from home. So I've had to stop it for the last week or so. The minute I sit down to try and work for a few minutes, the girls start acting like maniacs. :sigh: That's usually when I start yelling.

[bzymomof4]

*slowly raises hand*

I am also guilty of this. Unfortunately I have nothing to add to what the gals already said, but I can offer :hug:

[Dawn]

I think I need to look into this to for the future, the boys aren't at the age yet where I feel the need to yell but I'm sure in down the road they'll drive me crazy...lol.

Right now for my 2 year old counting 3-2-1 works well, he knows once I start counting, I mean business and if he doens't listen off to time out he goes!

[Chocolate Chip]

I learned not to yell when I was 18 working in a daycare center after school. The owner came up to me one evening as I was yelling across the room to try to round up all my school-agers. She said quietly, lowering my voice would be more effective as they'd have to quiet down to hear me.

I have never been a yeller with my kids, but that lesson from 13 years ago is always in the back of my mind, and I think that bit of advice helped.

FWIW, I use humor more than anything in my parenting. And most things crack me up anyway, so that helps me not take most situations too seriously.